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Anais Nin
It's 2 weeks after the due
date for my January e-letter. I'm
late&emdash;definitely late, the latest I've been
so far. I've blithefully gone about my busy
business noticing, but doing nothing. Finally,
tonight, I am packed for a weekend seminar and it's
only 9 PM. Booming Women
InPowerment Tour I have time to think and
voila!, I realize that I have got to let you know
about Fran Harris and her "Booming Women
InPowerment Tour." It's in Los Angeles, February
23-25, 2007. Check it out NOW and see if
you are interested in attending. CLICK
HERE to go to the
"Booming Women" Web site. If you sign up, I will
get an affiliate fee, and I will see you there. Let
me know, and I'll look for you. My First Teleconference
Interview One reason I blamed for not
getting my January e-letter out on time is that I
was preoccupied with a tele-interview I committed
to doing in January. I interviewed "Anita" (her
interview name) about what are the common threads
of courage that people like herself who managed to
escape a difficult childhood constructively via the
convent to higher education and out of the convent
to a love relationship, a PhD and a career helping
international torture victims re-enter normal
society in the United States. The degrees of difficulty
were significantly different, but the approach was
similar. These women had a limit to their personal
mourning time before they moved on to dealing with
the reality of their situation. Each may have been
victims of situations, but everyone was a victor of
her own life. It is so inspiring. That
interview did take up time and energy. I loved
doing it, though I need improvement as an
interviewer, I will definitely do more. I'm thinking of the theme
of "Hidden Heroes." What do you think?
Telegraphing My
Punch But the real reason I am
late with this e-letter, I believe, has more to do
with the fact that I scared myself with my last
e-letter with it's commitments that I made of
things to get done this year. In fact, I received a
beautiful letter from my step-daughter. Aside from
the warm, loving words that she often shares with
me (I am truly blest), she mentioned that with the
last e-letter, I gave her an insight into what I am
doing before I do it. In other words, she always
sees the results of what I do without being privy
to my intentions, commitments, goals. Oh, my my,
she was so right. I have historically held my
dreams close to my vest. If you know what I had in
mind, you will know if I fail. Ugh, my dark ugly
insides. Yet, lots of people have those feelings as
I do. However, all the leadership
gurus, all the books and tapes say to the effect:
"Declare yourself." The more you talk about what
you are planning, the more likely you are to bring
it into existence. And that's not voodoo or
spiritual mumbo jumbo. It really makes sense.
If we talk about our goals
all the time, it's on our mind. We tend to do
what's on our mind. If we talk about it all the
time, then we share it with other people that are
willing to help us when they know what we
need/want. Last edition, I talked
about having an Internet presence in 2007, and I
will. I will share more about that in a later
edition. What Could Hamper my
Progress? I mentioned that what could
hamper my progress is my lack of self confidence.
Yes, I know that many of you who know me, are
scratching your head and saying that it doesn't
quite compute. It doesn't fit with my
accomplishments and my personality (when I show
it). As best as I can figure, it's the last vestige
of my childhood thinking patterns inhaled from my
parents. They also were very competent, but never
quite satisfied with themselves. My Plan So my goal is to step into
my true value, and I have a plan. I am taking all the
seminars of Clinton Swaine (www.FinancialFrontier.com)
that I can fit into my schedule. His approach to
teaching business fundamentals is experiential game
playing. This is putting me into situations where I
can practice putting myself out there. It's a bigger challenge for
me than my singing Parlor Performance or my comedy
routine. FOLLOW
THIS LINK to check
it out. I've already participated
one of Clinton's workshops and shriveled. I didn't
shine. You wouldn't have recognized me; I didn't
recognize me &endash; except from very long
ago. It's my commitment for is
next weekend seminar (February 19 - 21, 2007) to
expand. When in doubt, shout it out. I was listening to Brian
Tracy tapes that Clinton lent me, and Brian says
that if you want to accomplish something that you
haven't accomplished ever before, you will need to
develop some skill or ability that you never had
before. You need to see what skills other people
have who are successful where you want to be. Then
develop those skills. Developing a
Self-Confidence Technique One skill that Clinton
helped me identify at the last "Pay to Play"
workshop was to learn how to have your past
accomplishments at the ready to buoy you when your
ship's rocking. He helped me start a list
of "Merle Accomplishments" (I'm up to 70) that I
have at bed-side, desk-side and
automobile-side. I read it several times a
day. Because when we are challenged with something
we don't know if we can do, our mind goes back to
our last failure, and we can't even remember our
successes. This technique counteracts that.
All or Nothing at
All Then there was the first
Dr. Phil show I've seen in several months. He
warned a guest about putting forth a 30% effort.
Just putting forth an
effort isn't good enough to make the significant
changes I'm looking for. It has to be a 100% effort
and that is dang uncomfortable. Wish me 100% effort this
weekend at Clinton's seminar. I'll keep you posted.
As you see, I'm sharing
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